Tuesday, February 12, 2013

The Obituary of Carroll Elizabeth Benjamin Pickering

The obituary as it should have run in the Dallas Morning News, if I had wanted to pay $725. I love my wife and her memory, but that money will go somewhere else to better honor her.

Carroll Elizabeth Benjamin Pickering, 40, left behind the pain of stage IV brain cancer that had plagued her for over two years February 3, 2013. She passed away in the comfort of her home in Dallas with family by her side. She was born May 10, 1972 in Houston, Texas.

She is preceded in death by her father, James H. Benjamin. Surviving family members are her husband, James, and daughter, Lillian, mother, Marie Bagert, and siblings Annie Irwin, Katy Benjamin, Margaret Benjamin, and Hank Benjamin. 

She was employed by Neiman Marcus for twelve years as a financial coordinator. She enjoyed traveling with her family and friends and had just completed a trip to the Hill Country and northeastern Georgia with her husband and daughter. She was an avid reader, including bedtime stories to her daughter. She loved making jewelry, cooking and baking, especially around the holidays. She actively participated the last two years of the National Brain Tumor 5K walk with the love and support of family and friends.

A memorial service will be held at 2:00 pm, Wednesday, February 13, 2013 at Sparkman/Hillcrest Northwest Highway Chapel. The family asks, that in lieu of flowers, make a donation in Carroll's name to the National Brain Tumor Society (www.braintumor.org) or to a charity that is close to your heart.


  1. Beautifully written.
    I agree, and think that Carroll would have wanted that money spent in a better way. There is no reason that it should cost that much money to honor our loved ones in print. Thinking of you and keeping you and your family in my prayers daily.

  2. James, I am a good friend of Maggies. Although we have not met. you and your beautiful Lily are dear to my heart and prayers. I know you will stay strong and provide your beautiful. lily with more love than anyone can imagine.
    With much love

  3. Thank you, Melissa, and a thank you to you, Kari. Lilly and I are doing very well, considering that it's only been two weeks. We'll be fine.